Kristy’s Weight Loss Journey and Life Lessons

Kristy’s Weight Loss Journey and Life Lessons

Where It All Started . . .

I have a four (4) year old daughter, and like me she’s likes to eat. Her passion of eating reminded me of me as a child and how I was brought up. Having her brought up a lot of issues from my childhood which were always there on the surface, but she helped me to face a lot of those issues.

I didn’t want history to repeat itself.

My mother put me on my first diet when I was 10 years old. I didn’t want my issues with food to become my daughter’s issues with food. From that I had feelings of self-loathing.

I was pretty sad and that’s what sort of brought me to the clinic.

Making The Decision To Seek Help:

I didn’t want history to repeat itself so when I saw it was starting to I wanted to put a stop to it.

Something just finally clicked inside me I don’t know it took me 4 years but something finally clicked, and I personally felt as if I was guided to the clinic.

I was Google searching one day, ‘food addiction’ and the service popped up. I think it was one of the first things on the Google search and it was in the north side.

I had just recently moved to the north side and I just went with my gut instinct, and was very thankful that I did.

I learned that I had a really intense loathing of myself.

I couldn’t look myself in the mirror.

I couldn’t say a nice thing to myself.

Loving yourself involves a lot of pieces and it’s a daily battle especially if you don’t have the necessary training from early on in life – being your parents – but it’s something that you need to work on for yourself firstly and then others after that.

Coming into the service I had to learn to self-parent myself and to be honest self-parenting probably saved me.

I feel like it saved me, along with the tools that I was given. I also meditated and journal a lot.

I realised my habits weren’t the best habits to have had, food and alcohol played a massive part in socialising. They were all habits that I learned early on.

I guess I was trying to find the love for myself and to know that I don’t need to turn to food and alcohol to find that happy person, or I’ve just learned a lot about myself.

Living Life Versus Existing In Life – Pulling Down The Barriers And Obstacles:

Finding out who I really am and why my life panned out the way it did, learning to let go and to stop people pleasing. Putting other persons needs above my own, which I was really bad at.

Being able to finally make a decision, whereas before I would chop and change and could not make a decision to save my life.

I also don’t allow guilt to dictate what I choose for myself.

Learning to talk to myself in a much nicer way and I’m loving finding out who I really am and not feeling like I need to hide myself any more.

I tried many times before I seen people before to help with my depression and anxiety. But I finally felt like I found someone who was willing to show me a better way and not just talk the usual psychology mumbo jumbo, as I like to call it, but I knew that I finally found somebody who wasn’t going to give up on me.

I was shown a better way and I showed her I could do it a better way too. I was ready to do the work.

Related: Kate’s Journey and Life Lessons

Being Ready To Start Your Journey:

One hundred percent (100%) it`s not, you know you can see fifty (50) different people but you have to be really given the work, but I also feel as if you really need to be given the proper tools and that was given to me. And it was the right time.

The right time, the right person, one hundred percent (100%)

Valued Life Lessons Learned From The Journey

Life Lesson 1

Self-parenting was massive for me, being taught to parent myself.

I didn’t have the best parental upbringing.

Learning to talk to the little girl inside of me in a much nicer way has helped me to be nicer to myself as an adult, because I wasn’t very nice to myself.

I regularly go back now in my meditation and I give the little girl, the little me, I give her cuddles and I tell her that I love her now and I never used to do that.

Life Lesson 2

It’s ok to do things to make me happy, and to be who I am.  

 I used to stifle that and I believe that it is imperative to do things for myself in order for me to be the best person, mother, wife, friend that I can be. Much happier.

Letting Go of Mothers Guilt

I had a wonderful hypnosis that helped me to let go of the guilt. It was a great, great experience.

I no longer feel that guilt anymore.

I used to get pretty much daily, but I know it’s ok to do things for myself now and to make myself happy and it isn’t going to be to the detriment of my family, in fact it`s probably for the better.

That I’m finally doing things for myself and that I’m not allowing guilt to play a part in my life, as we just said before guilt was a massive deal for me.

The hypnosis session definitely helped in letting that go. I’ve never had hypnosis before and I wasn’t a hundred percent (100%) sure how it was going to go, but it turned out to be the best thing ever.

All feelings of guilt have now dissipated.

I now don’t get anxious when I’m out doing things for myself. I don’t have the feeling or I don’t get the anxious feeling I used to get now when I was out doing things for myself.

I would often feel like I would need to rush home because it was my job to care for my family, now I don’t have that, now I’ve finally given myself permission to do thing for myself and to be happy.

Old habits die hard but occur less often

Food choices are a daily battle but there nowhere near as bad as it was before. I believe because, I have that self-parent tool and I’m still doing it daily and I believe it will be something that one day get easier but it takes time to get over a life time of issues relating to those sorts of things so it will get better I know it.

Advice for others……

You really do need to be ready to make that change.

People talk about a switch, and it’s true, you really need to hit that point where you feel like enough is enough you can`t keep living your life the way that you are.

You need to do it not for others but for yourself.

Even though I suffered through years of people pleasing and guilt-ridden fear based hell as I call it, it really was just the right time for me in my head to make the change.

I feel like even though I didn’t love myself much when I, well at all when I started, I must have loved myself just enough to get to that point, to get the help.

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