Be More Confident By Growing Your Self-Worth

Be More Confident By Growing Your Self-Worth

Self-worth – what does it actually mean?

In essence, self-worth means: the amount of worth of value you place on yourself as a person.

Self-worth is different from self-esteem, in that your self-esteem has both trait and state aspects which you link to specific areas of your life.

Your trait self-esteem is your inherent level whereas your state self-esteem is dependent on your level of success and failure, within different areas of your life.

In order to build true self-worth, you need to focus on your own self and let go of comparisons to those around you.

You are a unique individual and the more you value yourself as worthy, the easier it will be to find happiness and become less stressed.

How Can You Grow Your Self-Worth?

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There are a number of techniques and strategies that can be used to help build self-worth but please remember – some of these may not work for you!

Everyone is unique so these techniques will resonate more or less, depending on your own self, so give them a go. Importantly, nothing works if you only try it once!

Choose the strategies that resonate with you and try them at least 10 times then stick with the ones that work for you.

Also, depending on where you’re starting from (your base sense of self-worth), how you talk to yourself, your support network, etc., it may take a while to build up trust and confidence in yourself. 

Be kind, be patient and above all remember that it will be beneficial in the end.

Are you ready? Let’s get started then!

Three (3) Tips to Start Improving Your Self-worth:

Tip #1: Affirmations

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Affirmations can be very helpful – they are short sentences that are positive (without the words ‘should’, ‘must’, ‘don’t, ‘not’ or ‘no’), self-referenced (i.e. you use the word ‘I’) and ideally short and clear.

Create your own affirmations by using your own positive qualities and reframe negative statements you tell yourself.

Here are some examples:

  • Food nourishes and sustains me, and is a positive thing in my life.
  • I am a beautiful, strong and unique individual.
  • I am the person who decides my self-worth, not anyone else.
  • I respect myself and my body.
  • I am worthy of time, attention, love and compassion and give the same in return.
  • Today I will remember to find and appreciate moments in my day.
  • I define my own happiness.

Keep your affirmation statements where you can access them easily for example, on your phone, on your computer, in your car, on your bedside table, on the back of the toilet door, or next to your bathroom mirror.

Read your affirmations daily to help you connect with them and uplift your self-worth.

Your personal affirmations can be useful when you are having a particularly bad moment or something goes wrong – they can help remind you of who you are, or how you’d like to respond in challenging situations.

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 Tip #2: Journaling

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One of the first steps toward truly valuing yourself is, not surprisingly, to know yourself!

Learning about yourself can be unexpectedly hard, particularly if you have outside influences (children, partners, jobs, friends), who define a lot of your life.

Therefore, journaling can be a positive influence to take a journey with yourself and find out more.

Journaling is a safe way to express what you are feeling and to work through your emotions.

Particularly with emotional situations, it allows you to trial scenarios, hash out communication strategies and figure out if there’s an underlying cause for why you’re so upset.

Here are a few ideas to help you get your journal started:

  • Write a list of things you’ve always wanted to do – similar to a Bucket List. Don’t feel pressured to do any of things on it though. Be free to let your imagination soar without limits – the idea for this one is to see what inspires you and what piques your curiosity. If you can do some things on that list, great!
  • Make a list of positive things about yourself – what you’re good at, nice things people have said about you, positive personality traits etc.
  • Write a eulogy for yourself – sounds morbid right? Psychologists have actually been getting people to do this as an exercise. You can imagine what you would want people to remember you for. It might seem silly, but writing it down can help remind you of what’s important and what you would like to focus on more.

Tip #3: Meditation and Visualisation

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Finally, it’s an often said, ‘saying that what can go wrong, will go wrong’.

Be prepared to have setbacks, to feel negative, to have days where nothing seems to work.

This is called LIFE!

On those days, techniques like meditation and visualisation can help to calm the mind, and allow you to get through the day.

Research has found that people who regularly meditate have lower levels of Stress and Anxiety.

The reason for this is the calming effect on the mind and body.

You can build up your practice slowly by starting with 5 or 10 minutes.

Just like anything, you need to learn how to do it, so give yourself the opportunity to gain the benefits of meditation and visualisation.

They are incredible tools for daily use, so give them a go!

Hopefully, some of the information here will provide starting points for ways you can positively engage yourself and manage your own thoughts.

Building self-worth takes time.

You will find your way.

If you find you need more help, please contact Fit Minds & Bodies Clinic to arrange a consultation with Kellee Waters.

Kellee has extensive experience in this area and can offer more personalised advice, tips, and techniques to help you build a life filled with authentic confidence and self-worth.