I’ll Be Happy When…

I’ll Be Happy When…

On some level, does a part of you which secretly believes that when you reach a particular goal that life will improve or the burdens of the past will just disappear?

This is the ‘Fairytale’ Syndrome . . .

When we were children, we believed in fairytales with a happy ever after ending.

As we grow up we still hold on to this same belief or fantasy.

We want a happy ever after ending amongst the true reality of life.

Even though we may not consciously believe in this or purposefully put our lives on hold until we reach a happy ever after, we do.

It is like watching a movie when it gets to an exciting bit and you hold your breath, urgently anticipating what is going to happen next.

This is what many people tend to do in their own life.

There seems to be a period of holding your breath or not living life to its fullest in anticipation for the ending or end result.

The focus is on the goal and everything hinges on the end result and many people either:

Reach their goals and find that:

  • Nothing has changed;
  • They are exhausted and they relax, or
  • Return to old habits out of disappointment, exhaustion and grief.

OR

Never reach their goals as the reality of the goal is so unrealistic that they:

  • Can only maintain the rigid lifestyle or program for a limited time;
  • They return to their existing habits feeling like a failure, and
  • Become disillusioned with life and depressed.

This all results in the yo-yo effect which pulls down our:

  • Self-esteem;
  • Confidence;
  • Efficacy;
  • Belief in ourselves, and
  • It begins to alter our identity.

5 Tips to Avoid Fairytale Syndrome

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To avoid the Fairytale Syndrome and yo-yo effect you can follow these five (5) simple, yet effective tips:

Tip #1 – Know Your End Goal and Reduce It

Most of the time we set unrealistic and unachievable goals which leads to disappointment and loss of motivation.

Know what your outcome goal/end result is and reduce it by at least 20%.

If you have a weight loss goal of 20kg – your new weight loss goal is 16kg.

Tip #2 – Set Realistic Goals

By setting unrealistic goals we set ourselves up for failure from the start.

Set a realistic deadline and add 30% e.g. if your deadline is 3 months (90 days)  – your new deadline is (90 + 27 = 117) = almost 4 months.

Tip #3 – Focus on the Journey

Look at the process and stop looking at the end result – LIVE LIFE NOW!!!

Find fun ways to help you achieve your goals.

Things that are going to get you excited about moving closer to your goal.

If you do fun and exciting things, your goals don’t feel like a chore and you may even achieve them ahead of schedule!

Tip #4 – Measure your progress

Look for progress – at least 8 different ways that are not the ways you have previously gauged progress.

Have fun with this too!

Tip #5 – Achievement charts

Create an achievement chart with lots of bright colours, stars, quotes and things that have been achieved.

Even the smallest thing can be an achievement and needs to be celebrated.

This will help when times are tough or you feel as though you have made no progress or feel like falling off the wagon.

It is a real motivator!

By using these guidelines to make small and achievable goals, instead of focusing on the end result, you will see improvements in your body and your mindset.

If you are struggling and feel like you would like guidance moving towards your health and happiness goals, why not get in touch and book an appointment.

Booking an appointment with Fit Minds & Bodies Clinic can help you:

  • Live in the now;
  • Have fun with reaching goals;
  • Create an exciting and fun process for true change, and
  • Help you enjoy the journey instead of focusing on the end result. 

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