Be More Confident By Growing Your Self-Worth

Be More Confident By Growing Your Self-Worth

Self-worth – what does it actually mean?

In essence, self-worth means: the amount of worth of value you place on yourself as a person.

Self-worth is different from self-esteem, in that your self-esteem has both trait and state aspects which you link to specific areas of your life.

Your trait self-esteem is your inherent level whereas your state self-esteem is dependent on your level of success and failure, within different areas of your life.

In order to build true self-worth, you need to focus on your own self and let go of comparisons to those around you.

You are a unique individual and the more you value yourself as worthy, the easier it will be to find happiness and become less stressed.

How Can You Grow Your Self-Worth?

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There are a number of techniques and strategies that can be used to help build self-worth but please remember – some of these may not work for you!

Everyone is unique so these techniques will resonate more or less, depending on your own self, so give them a go. Importantly, nothing works if you only try it once!

Choose the strategies that resonate with you and try them at least 10 times then stick with the ones that work for you.

Also, depending on where you’re starting from (your base sense of self-worth), how you talk to yourself, your support network, etc., it may take a while to build up trust and confidence in yourself. 

Be kind, be patient and above all remember that it will be beneficial in the end.

Are you ready? Let’s get started then!

Three (3) Tips to Start Improving Your Self-worth:

Tip #1: Affirmations

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Affirmations can be very helpful – they are short sentences that are positive (without the words ‘should’, ‘must’, ‘don’t, ‘not’ or ‘no’), self-referenced (i.e. you use the word ‘I’) and ideally short and clear.

Create your own affirmations by using your own positive qualities and reframe negative statements you tell yourself.

Here are some examples:

  • Food nourishes and sustains me, and is a positive thing in my life.
  • I am a beautiful, strong and unique individual.
  • I am the person who decides my self-worth, not anyone else.
  • I respect myself and my body.
  • I am worthy of time, attention, love and compassion and give the same in return.
  • Today I will remember to find and appreciate moments in my day.
  • I define my own happiness.

Keep your affirmation statements where you can access them easily for example, on your phone, on your computer, in your car, on your bedside table, on the back of the toilet door, or next to your bathroom mirror.

Read your affirmations daily to help you connect with them and uplift your self-worth.

Your personal affirmations can be useful when you are having a particularly bad moment or something goes wrong – they can help remind you of who you are, or how you’d like to respond in challenging situations.

Related: Ditch Your Resolutions – Shake Up Your Self-Worth

 Tip #2: Journaling

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One of the first steps toward truly valuing yourself is, not surprisingly, to know yourself!

Learning about yourself can be unexpectedly hard, particularly if you have outside influences (children, partners, jobs, friends), who define a lot of your life.

Therefore, journaling can be a positive influence to take a journey with yourself and find out more.

Journaling is a safe way to express what you are feeling and to work through your emotions.

Particularly with emotional situations, it allows you to trial scenarios, hash out communication strategies and figure out if there’s an underlying cause for why you’re so upset.

Here are a few ideas to help you get your journal started:

  • Write a list of things you’ve always wanted to do – similar to a Bucket List. Don’t feel pressured to do any of things on it though. Be free to let your imagination soar without limits – the idea for this one is to see what inspires you and what piques your curiosity. If you can do some things on that list, great!
  • Make a list of positive things about yourself – what you’re good at, nice things people have said about you, positive personality traits etc.
  • Write a eulogy for yourself – sounds morbid right? Psychologists have actually been getting people to do this as an exercise. You can imagine what you would want people to remember you for. It might seem silly, but writing it down can help remind you of what’s important and what you would like to focus on more.

Tip #3: Meditation and Visualisation

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Finally, it’s an often said, ‘saying that what can go wrong, will go wrong’.

Be prepared to have setbacks, to feel negative, to have days where nothing seems to work.

This is called LIFE!

On those days, techniques like meditation and visualisation can help to calm the mind, and allow you to get through the day.

Research has found that people who regularly meditate have lower levels of Stress and Anxiety.

The reason for this is the calming effect on the mind and body.

You can build up your practice slowly by starting with 5 or 10 minutes.

Just like anything, you need to learn how to do it, so give yourself the opportunity to gain the benefits of meditation and visualisation.

They are incredible tools for daily use, so give them a go!

Hopefully, some of the information here will provide starting points for ways you can positively engage yourself and manage your own thoughts.

Building self-worth takes time.

You will find your way.

If you find you need more help, please contact Fit Minds & Bodies Clinic to arrange a consultation with Kellee Waters.

Kellee has extensive experience in this area and can offer more personalised advice, tips, and techniques to help you build a life filled with authentic confidence and self-worth.

Ditch Your Resolutions – Shake Up Your Self-Worth

Ditch Your Resolutions – Shake Up Your Self-Worth

Coming into 2019, did you have a ‘New Year, New Me’ attitude?

Did you set yourself radical resolutions in an attempt to instigate meaningful change in your life?

The ‘all or nothing in the New Year’ attitude is a dangerous one.

Basing your self-worth on the ability to reach an unattainable goal is automatically setting you up for failure.

If you are setting goals that are unrealistic on the 1st January, unfortunately, they are still going to be unrealistic goals throughout the year. 

When you are unable to immediately satisfy these unrealistic expectations, you may become disheartened, and disappointed with yourself and your inability to achieve.

The reality is, these goals were never achievable in the first place, so no meaningful change can occur in this mindset.

Toxic Comparisons and Toxic Endorsements by Toxic Celebrities

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So often your ‘resolutions’ are influenced by what you see on social media or in magazines, without realising the underlying toxicity of comparison.

How many times have you seen an Instagram picture of a ‘skinny’ Instamodel, compared yourself, and not felt good enough or that your life wasn’t interesting or exciting?

This kind of comparison is deeply toxic and unhealthy.

When you compare yourself to others, you are doing yourself a disservice.

Furthermore, how many times have you seen celebrities endorsing weight loss products like ‘flat-tummy-tea’, ‘appetite suppressant lollipops’, or ‘skinny shakes’?

Have you ever purchased, or thought about purchasing these products under the promise they will make you look like these celebrities?

The unfortunate truth is that these products are unhealthy, laxative-based or stimulant-based, and provide your body with none of the nutrition it needs to function well.

These products will not make you look like a celebrity or give you the life of a celebrity (everything in your life will be the same and nothing will have changed).

In the New Year especially, celebrities take advantage of people hoping to better themselves by using exploitive phrases like ‘did you overindulge at Christmas?’ or ‘how to lose that holiday weight’.

They then market these expensive products with an exclusive discount code, which is usually a variation of their name, to track how many customers they are bringing in and their subsequent commission.

It’s imperative to remember that these celebrities are being paid hundreds of thousands of dollars to promote these products to their impressionable fan base.

The Truth Behind ‘Perfection’

These celebrities will never cite what has really given them their aesthetics:

  • Plastic surgeons;
  • Nutritionists;
  • Personal trainers;
  • Personal chefs;
  • Photoshop artists, and
  • Other lifestyle elements that most of the general population will never have access to.

Therefore, it is so important to recognise when you are under toxic influences, and realise how they are affecting your self-worth, self-esteem, life satisfaction, happiness and ability to self-love.

Change of Attitude and Self-Love Endorsements by Ethical Celebrities

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Thankfully, more people in the spotlight are encouraging a change in attitude and calling out this harmful agenda.

A great example of this is Jameela Jamil, an actor in ‘The Good Place’…

In regard to scrapping all-or-nothing New Year’s resolutions, she encourages her following to ‘stop with the crazy diets, and instead of radical self-change, to strive for radical self-love this year!

This is a wonderful, empowering and uplifting quote; a refreshingly honest celebrity stance.

This is a woman to follow!

My personality is beyond all measurement!

Jameela herself suffered from an eating disorder.

‘I was the teenager who starved herself for years, who spent all her money on these miracle cures and laxatives and tips from celebrities on how to maintain a weight that was lower than what my body wanted it to be’. 

This is a classic example of the miseducation that influences young people, and how it can affect people well into adulthood. Jameela’s perception of self, much like most of us, was radically altered by mainstream media and social normalities. 

In response to the toxicity in the media, Jameela founded the i_weigh campaign, arguing that the true value of you cannot be measured on scale.

We are worth so much more than that.

Who we are is far more complex.

We are comprised of so much more.

And thus, i_weigh was born.

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Find Your Supportive Squad!

Start following people on social media who care about the betterment of other people and surround yourself with people and messages that lift you up and inspire you!

Stop following people on social media with unhealthy and toxic messages that make you compare or pull your self-worth down. If the message tear you down and make you feel awful about yourself, click un-follow or BLOCK!

Focus less on comparison, and instead practice gratitude about your uniqueness, because no one else is quite like you!

Appreciate what makes you, YOU!

Rather Than Setting Resolutions, Practice Self-Love!

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The person I am all-year-round is worthy of self-love!

This year, I challenge you to ditch your resolutions, and instead actively practice self-worth and self-love all year round.

At the end of the day, and all year round, you’re worth your weight in gold.

If you are stuck in a cycle of yo-yo dieting, body dysmorphia or disordered eating behaviours such as Binge Eating or Emotional Eating, Fit Minds & Bodies Clinic can help you.

We help you to get to the root cause of your unhealthy patterns and behaviours that are keeping you stuck. 

We will support you to reach balance and sustainability for your health and happiness.

If you are ready to get off the rollercoaster, book an appointment with Fit Minds & Bodies Clinic today!

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