Food and Weight is NOT the ‘Problem’: Part 2

Food and Weight is NOT the ‘Problem’: Part 2

In Food and Weight is Not the ‘Problem’: Part 1, we started to look at some of the possible reasons underlying your food and weight issues. Today, I want you to turn your focus towards the importance of your language and perception.

All to often, you most likely use blanket statements about a situation – this takes away your power. You need to open up and unpack these statements and situations to understand them better.

An all-or-nothing negative blanket-statement might sound like this:

‘I am either in control and eating well or out of control and eating everything in sight. I have no control with or around food.’

Statements like this can become like a self-fulfilling prophecy – if you say you have no control, you won’t have any control. If you say that you are an emotional eater than you will be!

Your language and perception have the power to lift you up or pull you down.

Would You Rather . . .

Life is all about making choices, and you have a choice to make about your language and perceptions.

You can either choose to:

1. Maintain the language and perceptions that continue to pull you closer towards Disordered Eating (Emotional Eating, Stress Eating, Binge Eating, Night-time Eating, Food Addiction), weight and body issues (body hatred, weight gain, yo-yo dieting, body dissatisfaction),


2. Change your language and perceptions to support and move you towards living a life FREE from food and body issues, filled with balance, happiness and purpose.

If you choose to start changing your language and perceptions, your next choice to make is to dig deeper into the underlying issues of your food and weight symptoms.

Creating change for your relationship with food and weight does not happen in one step and overnight.

It involves you digging deeper and be honest with yourself about your behaviours, patterns and cycles surrounding food and weight.

To help you get started I have created an action guide downloadable PDF which includes your own step-by-step guide to unpack your stories surrounding food.

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Kate’s Journey and Life Lessons

Kate’s Journey and Life Lessons

Where It All Started . . .

I was a fit and competitive teenager and spent a lot of time playing sport and being outside.

In my later teenage years, I got glandular fever.

I put on weight without the sport and some unhealthy habits snuck in like stress and night-time eating.

That meant that I wasn’t able to lose the weight and developed a negative relationship with food.

With the weight I gained I wasn’t comfortable going back to a sporting environment.

I didn’t feel comfortable enough to do something about losing the weight and this created a vicious cycle that spiraled out of control.

I loved sport and healthy food but something was blocking me…

It wasn’t as simple as just eat right and exercise and you’ll be fine!

I loved sport and eating healthy but there was something psychological that was blocking me from being able to help myself.

Making The Decision To Seek Help:

There were psychological patterns, or beliefs, that I just wasn’t able to change myself.

A Weight Loss Psychologist was an option for me.

The focus was on solutions, for my situation, that I had not seen anywhere else and that I wanted and needed.

I feel like there’s nothing blocking me anymore!

I can do whatever I want to do!

If I want to go play sports, I go and play sports.

If I’m hungry and I realise that I don’t have to eat like a fat person anymore.

I eat the foods that I like – healthy, vibrant food that makes me feel good.

I live a lifestyle where I’m in control and not held back at all.

My Weight Loss Psychologist helped me to create and live the life that I wanted to live. It’s been an amazing journey!

I finally learned and understood that there was nothing wrong with me!

My beliefs were holding me back!

My Breakthrough Moment:

There’s nothing wrong with me and I can lose weight. It’s my beliefs and habits that stopped me from being able to change myself!

It was a huge sense of relief.

It was a huge sense of accomplishment that I can do whatever I want to do, and I can be whoever I want to be, without these beliefs holding me back.

To stop suppressing things is confronting and can make you feel like you want to stop the process.

The things that are blocking you are not on the surface and you do need the help of a Weight Loss Psychologist to get you through that.

When things do come to the surface, it can be quite confronting and you may feel like you want to bury it again and just keep living like you are, as it is more comfortable.

Pushing through it has amazing benefits!

Related: Kristy’s Weight Loss Journey

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Life Lesson 1

Surround Yourself with Supportive Tools to Help You be in Control for Change

You are in control of your own thoughts! If you are not mentally in a good place – if you’re stressed, rundown, tired, etc. – you actually have the power to change it.

Surround yourself with things that can help you change that – a checklist, a reminder, funny movies or music.

This is really powerful and it helps you get unstuck.

Life Lesson 2

What are You Going to Do to Make Your Life the Way You Want it to Be?

What are you going to do to create the life you want?

You may not think that a Weight Loss Psychologist is within your budget.

But when you really look at how much you are spending on unhealthy food and habits, it may easily be a few hundred dollars.

If you invest in yourself wisely then it sets you up to make change and live the life you want to live.

This is an investment in myself and a gift to myself

Every day I wake up with a clearer mind and I think I’m so glad I did that.

The biggest change and benefit is the change in my healthy mindset.

I say yes to things all the time now.

If my friends want to go play sport or go for a run or anything like that, I don’t have those constant beliefs in my life like, ‘you can’t do that you’re a fat person, or you can’t be seen doing that because you’ve got wobbly bits’.

I think by firstly having my mindset cleared out, reviewed and restructured, it means that I’m able to do all these things daily that I always wanted to do but somehow put up blocks to.

I can exercise every day without going through that mental battle of whether I’m going to do it or not, and what people are going to think when they see somebody bit chubby running.

I see healthy food now as something that fuels me for the activities I want to do.

Living Life Versus Existing In Life – Pulling Down The Barriers And Obstacles:

In just one (1) year, there have been incredible changes in my whole life. I’ve changed careers.

I’ve got involved in sports in the way I always hoped I would be.

I’m not going to say that I’m always happy all the time, I’m still human and still go through problems, but I have the tools so that when things go wrong it’s not the end of the world.

Old Habits Die Hard But Occur Less Often:

If it is a rainy day, and there’s nothing to do outside, all my sporting is not on, then I can very easily sit on the couch and eat something.

Now I don’t do that, but it’s still not an automatic process to NOT do that.

I find that I’m still working on that and I am quickly coming to the right conclusion for myself and my body.

Every time that does come up, I think well that used to come up every single day, now it comes once every few months now.

However, it is a good reminder of where you have come from and how far.

Advice For Others . . .

Stop doing bad diets!

Stop joining new gym programs!

You don’t actually need all of that.

Think of all the money that you’re going to spend on that and just go and have a few sessions with a Weight Loss Psychologist.

I think that if you’re in a similar position to me, you would know yourself that there’s something else going on here.

There are beliefs you need to change!

Change them as it will change all areas of your life and it will be amazing.


If you are like Kate and would like extra support from a Psychologist to guide you through your weight loss journey, Fit Minds & Bodies Clinic can help you. 

We have years of experience helping people in reaching their goals for health and happiness.

Contact Fit Minds & Bodies Clinic Today!

I’ll Be Happy When…

I’ll Be Happy When…

On some level, does a part of you which secretly believes that when you reach a particular goal that life will improve or the burdens of the past will just disappear?

This is the ‘Fairytale’ Syndrome . . .

When we were children, we believed in fairytales with a happy ever after ending.

As we grow up we still hold on to this same belief or fantasy.

We want a happy ever after ending amongst the true reality of life.

Even though we may not consciously believe in this or purposefully put our lives on hold until we reach a happy ever after, we do.

It is like watching a movie when it gets to an exciting bit and you hold your breath, urgently anticipating what is going to happen next.

This is what many people tend to do in their own life.

There seems to be a period of holding your breath or not living life to its fullest in anticipation for the ending or end result.

The focus is on the goal and everything hinges on the end result and many people either:

Reach their goals and find that:

  • Nothing has changed;
  • They are exhausted and they relax, or
  • Return to old habits out of disappointment, exhaustion and grief.


Never reach their goals as the reality of the goal is so unrealistic that they:

  • Can only maintain the rigid lifestyle or program for a limited time;
  • They return to their existing habits feeling like a failure, and
  • Become disillusioned with life and depressed.

This all results in the yo-yo effect which pulls down our:

  • Self-esteem;
  • Confidence;
  • Efficacy;
  • Belief in ourselves, and
  • It begins to alter our identity.

5 Tips to Avoid Fairytale Syndrome

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To avoid the Fairytale Syndrome and yo-yo effect you can follow these five (5) simple, yet effective tips:

Tip #1 – Know Your End Goal and Reduce It

Most of the time we set unrealistic and unachievable goals which leads to disappointment and loss of motivation.

Know what your outcome goal/end result is and reduce it by at least 20%.

If you have a weight loss goal of 20kg – your new weight loss goal is 16kg.

Tip #2 – Set Realistic Goals

By setting unrealistic goals we set ourselves up for failure from the start.

Set a realistic deadline and add 30% e.g. if your deadline is 3 months (90 days)  – your new deadline is (90 + 27 = 117) = almost 4 months.

Tip #3 – Focus on the Journey

Look at the process and stop looking at the end result – LIVE LIFE NOW!!!

Find fun ways to help you achieve your goals.

Things that are going to get you excited about moving closer to your goal.

If you do fun and exciting things, your goals don’t feel like a chore and you may even achieve them ahead of schedule!

Tip #4 – Measure your progress

Look for progress – at least 8 different ways that are not the ways you have previously gauged progress.

Have fun with this too!

Tip #5 – Achievement charts

Create an achievement chart with lots of bright colours, stars, quotes and things that have been achieved.

Even the smallest thing can be an achievement and needs to be celebrated.

This will help when times are tough or you feel as though you have made no progress or feel like falling off the wagon.

It is a real motivator!

By using these guidelines to make small and achievable goals, instead of focusing on the end result, you will see improvements in your body and your mindset.

If you are struggling and feel like you would like guidance moving towards your health and happiness goals, why not get in touch and book an appointment.

Booking an appointment with Fit Minds & Bodies Clinic can help you:

  • Live in the now;
  • Have fun with reaching goals;
  • Create an exciting and fun process for true change, and
  • Help you enjoy the journey instead of focusing on the end result. 

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